Tony had to work tonight, which is very unusual…something that happens maybe two or three times a year. I know, I know – some of you are thinking we are VERY fortunate - and we are. We’re also so used to having him around that we are spoiled. The girls didn’t even seem to notice his absence until around 5 o’clock. We were playing a game of LIFE when one of them asked if he was home (he often works from his "office" in our bedroom until right about that time.) I told them that he was working a tech event and wouldn’t be home until later.
We wrapped presents, munched on bagel bites for supper and they watched a video while I finished up the teacher’s gifts. All the lights were on and the house was full of noise but something was missing. I think we could all feel it. Every once in a while one of them would come to me and ask when he was going to be home. I wasn’t sure but figured 8 or 8:30ish. That sure seemed like a long time away. FINALLY he called and said he was leaving Indy. You could feel a sense of relief among us lonely women.
And then after all the asking and long faces, believe it or not, when he came in the door, I don’t think one of the girls said “Hi”! or came up and hugged him squealing his name like they would have when they were younger. They went on with their business and he went upstairs to take set up his laptop and take care of a couple things, but something in the atmosphere had suddenly changed. All was right now, Daddy was home.
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I know exactly what you mean. It is that way at our house. Since Mark died, nothing seems normal even if we aren't sad, because there is an emptyness. Treasure every moment, even the ones where you would just like to shove him out the door. :)
I kept thinking of all the husbands/fathers that will be missing from the holidays this year throughout the evening, Peggy. Your husband, Dale, Bro. Everhart, Tim Dotson, John Case and so many more... My heart goes out to them-especially b/c you all lost them so suddenly.
My husband left me with four little ones and then about 2 years later my brother in law (my sister husband) got sick and died suddenly. It seems there are so many hurting hearts, but we are all so happy for you! Cherish these moments together and with the children. It's amazing how fast they grow!
I know what you mean! There's just a sense of "completeness" when everyone is home, especially daddy. Even when the kids get home from school and we're all here and safe, I feel it.
I can't comment on the song but that is so cool! I saw it on Julie's blog and I think I would get mixed up on what song I was supposed to sing next.
BTW - love your header! So cute and creative!
I should have said, I can't comment on the song post - the option isn't there for me.
Sara It is funny you mention it. I have wondered before if that happen to other families. When Matt wouldn't come home by his "normal" time the whole atmosphere in the house would change. This kids start asking when is daddy coming home. Then when he would Isabelle would be the only one who would really acknowledge him. But the atmosphere of the house would go back to normal. This should tell the men in our lives that they are truly needed and wanted. Sometimes I think I fail to let him know this enough. You have a very sweet family and I know you cherish them.
I'm glad there is a "daddy" in your life - I know the smell of coffee breath or sawdust always gives me that feeling that all is well - because that was the "smell" of my dad. Daddy's can protect you from ANYTHING - that's how I felt even up until I was (29) when dad passed ~~! He was my rock - here on earth. He could fix help in every way - be it a problem, a need, a want, a joy or sorrow to share, etc. I'm glad your girls have such a "great" daddy!
Oh, I realize your friends do not know my age, but I have decided that I'm forever 29 - you get to go backwards at a certain point, you know.... :)
Oh, I realize your friends do not know my age, but I have decided that I'm forever 29 - you get to go backwards at a certain point, you know.... :)
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